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If you are in the San Francisco Bay area, read Jamie’s article on the upcoming marathon. This is my first marathon, so I am excited.

I began a new job (HOORAY!!), and I really want to improve my networking skills as a way to become better at my job and expand on my freelance writing escapades. Therefore, I attended a networking seminar to master this skill. I ended up learning about myself and the art of true business.

For that reason, I asked permission to post the presentation outline of the event right here on Word Press. This way, all of you can learn from the session too.

No Fear Networking

Presenter:

Jason Jordan

StandOUT Communications

(www.standout-comm.com)

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Job Searching in 2012

  • —Resume Posting
  • Job Boards (Monster, Indeed, etc.)
  • Corporate Sites
  • —Social Networking
  • —Blogging
  • —Job Fairs
  • —Networking events
  • —Elevator Speech and Networking

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—Networking Step One

  • —Identify Your Sphere of Influence
  • People you used work with—especially former bosses
  • Family and friends
  • Former clients and vendors (from past work)
  • People you do business with now
  • Networking Step One
  • —Reestablish Contact with Your Sphere of Influence
  • LinkedIn or FaceBook are great for first contact.
  • Let’s re-connect!  How have you been?
  • Call them!!
  • Give them your update. Keep it positive!
  • Networking Step One
  • —Get Referrals
  • Do your research online first.
  • Don’t ask for a job, ask for a contact.
  • Be specific: company, industry or field.
  • Get them to call their contact on your behalf.

—Activity:  What product have your purchased or thing that you have done recently got you really excited?

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—Your Elevator Pitch

  • “Let’s go around the room and introduce yourself.”
  • Keep it short:  30 seconds.
  • Avoid industry jargon.
  • Give everyone a CLEAR idea of what you can do, and what you are looking for.
  • Give a short example of something amazing you did recently.

—Activity:  Your 30 Second (or less) commercial, or the greatest accomplishment in your career.

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Now, DITCH THE PITCH!

  • —Answer the question, “So, what do you do?”
  • —Making a REAL personal connection.
  • —Inspires conversation.
  • —Gets to the heart of what you do.
  • —Be ready for the next question as well.
  • —Look for opportunities to start new connections.

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—Netweaving as a Life Skill

  • —84% Success Rate, according to “What Color is Your Parachute?”
  • —Avoid EVER finding yourself in this situation again
  • —It is much more fulfilling and FUN
  • —How far can you take it?

——Activity:  Create your network poster with your name, name of your company and position, 3 good local friends, neighbors, or family members, and where they work. Then, hang your poster on the wall and stay there

—Taking it to the Streets

  • Where do I go from here?
  • Toastmasters.org
  • Get involved in your Church
  • Volunteer your time (what do you believe in?)
  • Chamber of Commerce mixers in your area
  • North County Times Event Calendars
  • Question:  What are you doing to meet people?
  • Meetup.com

Reflections: After posting this topic on a form (http://thatguywiththeglasses.com/forums/viewtopic.php?f=40&t=45335), I was able to collect popular movie selections for my article on the subject matter. I finished the assignment feeling empowered, yet it was brought to my attention that the article is TOO movie focused. After all, the site is established to serve people. This is a great lesson on getting a second opinion and incorporating an editor’s suggestions before public viewing.

The better article will be posted soon. However, may be you all will get a kick out of the original copy. Here goes!

Movie Night Extravaganza

Everyone loves movies! The best way to become a family with your fellow roommates is to establish Friday’s movie night. Now let’s explore the possibilities.

Action Adventure

Are you in the mood for a thrill ride of high energy events?  Action Adventure is always captivates viewers with an exciting journey. You can witness a world that involves chaotic police chases, powerful super heroes, suave secret agents, and unbelievable robotics. There is never a dull moment, which makes this genre the most fun in group setting.

Movie Suggestions: Indiana Jones, Transformers, Kill Bill, Die Hard, The Avengers, Inception, Hunger Games, Mission Impossible, Casino Royale, Reel Steal, X Men, The Dark Night, V for Vendetta

Children and Family

You don’t have to hide it. Even as adults, we still love magical movies that appeal to our child selves. Children and Family remind us of crucial life lessons dealing with character. For example, many Disney and Pixar films feature protagonists who are down on their luck yet evolve to reach their fullest potential. Also the whimsical atmosphere, innocent humor, and the moralistic story make this genre a great time for all ages.

Movie Suggestions:   Anything Disney, Anything Pixar, Anything Dreamworks, Miyazaki films, The Goonies, Harry Potter, Chronicles of Narnia, The Muppet Movie, Big, Coraline, Matilda

Comedy

Who doesn’t love to laugh? From witty dialogue to slipping on a banana, Comedy supplies a great amount of fresh ideas to tickle your funny bone. If you are ever feeling down, then this genre will easily return you to a positive state of mind.

Movie Suggestions: Shaun of the Dead, Anything Adam Sandler, Date Night, Rush Hour, Forrest Gump, Get Smart, Tropic Thunder, Blades of Glory, Blazing Saddles, Jump 21 Street

Drama

Sometimes life throws us lemons, and we have a choice to eat raw pulp or create sweet lemonade. Drama explores the very real emotions that are attached to this game called life. We have loneliness, we have loss, we have debt, we have depression, we have negative influences, and we have failure. This genre reveals the fact that we can hide in darkness or conquer it with light.

Movie Suggestions: A Few Good Men, Eyes Wide Shut, Slumdog Millionaire, American Beauty, Black Swan, August Rush, Amadeus, Girl With the Dragon Tattoo, Walk the Line

Fantasy and Science Fiction

Fantasy and Science Fiction will take you to a world unlike any other. The genre will break through boundaries of technology and human understanding. Here you will get a delicious taste of fast pace action while questioning your own reality. What will the future be like? Are there other worlds beyond our imaginations? What is magic? Is folklore a reflection of a forgotten past? Open your mind to the possibilities.

Movie Suggestions: Star Wars, Terminator, District 9, Avatar, Serenity, Star Trek, Alien, Lord of the Rings, Pirates of the Caribbean, 2001: A Space Odyssey, Pan’s Labyrinth, Super 8

Horror and Thriller

Can you face your fears? Horror was born from the uncertainty developed from fear. You will witness demons, monsters, ghost, gore, and other unspeakable things that we want to erase from our memories. This genre can mess with your mind, so it’s wise to watch these films with as many people as possible.

Movie Suggestions: The Ring, Psycho, Sinister, Paranormal Activity, Exorcist, Carrie, Scream, The Shining, Orphan, Saw, Blair Witch Project, Shutter Island, Panic Room, 28 Days Later, Nightmare on Elms Street

Independent

I must admit. I am not too familiar with this genre. They don’t call it “Independent” for nothing. Of course, there are some titles that a good number of people are aware of. Independent films usual have a documentary feel to them. It almost feels as if the films are a reflection of your life. Weird!

Movie Suggestions: Little Miss Sunshine, Juno, Magic of Belle Isle, The Savages, Arranged, Donnie Darko, Lost in Translation, Pulp Fiction, Clerks

Romance

I LOVE Romance. Here you will explore the awkward stages of finding your significant other. Each moment forms a stronger bond between the love birds. This genre only makes you fantasize about meeting your ideal match. Hugging, kissing, laughing, and loving between two destined souls. Here love always seems so beautiful. Sometimes it can be quite funny.

Movie Suggestions: Titanic, Ghost, The Princess Bride, My Big Fat Greek Wedding, Pride and Prejudice, Romeo and Juliet, You’ve Got Mail, 500 Days of Summer, The Proposal, The Notebook

Come on now. Don’t be shy. What is your favorite genre? Let’s go even further. List your top three favorite films from each genre. Once the results are posted, I believe we will see that we all have more in common than we think.

New Year’s Vegetarian~

My ultimate New Year’s goal is sail through the days with a clear mind and pure (w)holistic joy. This includes me being a conscious eater, so I am definitely in the kitchen more.

DSC00189Eggplant stir fry with Egyptian tea (licorice root and cinnamon).

DSC00196Miniature eggplant lasagna.

As you can see, eggplant has become my best friend.

The most powerful people you’ll ever meet are people who know their worth. They realize their strengths and conquer their weaknesses. For the rest of us, we need a little help to understand our power, and what better place to start than our astrological birth signs? Let’s talk about the leaders of the chart, Aries.

Aries people are born between March 21st and April 19th. Welcomed to the world at the peak of Spring, they are naturally creative and naturally enthusiastic. They even possess the element of fire in their hearts, which grants them great courageous even in the most stressful of situations.

The prized trait of an Arian is their ability to pave their own path. They can build a world out of their own imagination and crown themselves rulers. It is absolutely no accident that many Arians dominate the art industry from film to music to fine art. Well known Arians include Selena Quintanilla, Al Green, Maya Angelou, and Leonardo da Vinci. These individuals know how to listen to their instincts and transform their thoughts into actions. Just to boost up their egos even more, Arians are extremely loyal but only to those deserving of their time, so don’t waste their time.

On the flip side, Arians are self centered. Their minds are constantly focused on operating their own ideas, which means that their perspective is heavily influenced by their position in a situation.  They are impulsive as well.  They can get themselves into situations that are easily avoidable. They end up dealing with many consequences, so they learn best through trial and error. Lastly, don’t even waste time trying to control an Aries person.

The reason why Arians gravitate towards the arts or leadership positions is because they demand independence. They have to manage their own ideas or manage the ideas of others. There is no in between. This can be difficult for Arians starting out in the career hustle. Agreeing to someone else’s orders can be disgustingly painful for them because  they know in their hearts that their are a much better leaders.  Luckily this will not be a problem for long. All Arians know exactly what to do to get what they want.

How do you feel about Aries’ characteristics? Well, it doesn’t matter one bit. They will continue to strive for their dreams. Instead of judging, take a moment and learn from this fiery sign of pure will.

 

I definitely maintain a love-hate relationship with Disney, and now we are back in the love corner because Once Upon a Time has become my all time favorite show. It brilliantly links the classic fairy tales together in an epic plot that jumps back and forward between our world and the fantasy world, or the past and the present. I especially favor this series because it explores the idea that there are many worlds existing simultaneously. It also dances on the theory of past lives, inner power, and the multiple aspects of ourselves. I find all of these topics fascinating, which explains why I enjoy this series.

The first episode begins with a bang as we meet our terminator protagonist Emma Swan, who is a bail bonds representative. On her 28th birthday, she makes a wish to ease her loneliness, which has become a curse of hers over the years. Her wish has been granted, and that’s when her son Henry appears. At this very moment, it is only fitting that Emma is set for a very intricate adventure.

Personally Emma grows on me. In season one, it was hard to watch her make the obvious dumb decision since we the audience know more than her. We are given constant glimpses of the character’s true selves as it relates directly to a given situation. So I can only slap my head in disappointment when she, for example, trusts Sydney Glass even though she knows he was Regina’s spy and Regina always has a bag of tricks to come out victorious. Another example of Emma not trusting her instincts is when she decides to give up Henry…again and also takes Regina’s deadly apple turnover as a goodbye treat.

However in season two, she is wise and we are given her back story to show why she guards her emotions and why she is attracted to the bad boys like The Hunter, Captain Hook, and Pinocchio. Speaking of Pinocchio has anyone else noticed that Pinocchio failed Emma twice? The first time was understandable because he was a child when he left her in the orphanage. But wow! The second time was dishonorable. He stole Emma’s money and only sent her the car key while she was in jail. This is very disgraceful because Emma probably would have kept Henry if she had that extra cash. Pinocchio definitely has more moral lessons to learn.

Mr. Gold, or Rumpelstiltskin, is a great metaphor on how people in general seek others to solve their problems, which only makes the problem more complex. Each character was resourceful enough to get out of whatever predicament if they would have took the time to think of alternatives. The best example of this is Cinderella. She is literally seeing fireworks from the Prince’s palace. Therefore, she could have made her own dress while her Step Mother and Sister were out, and attended the Royal Ball herself. But nope, she wanted a quick easy solution, which led her to the possibility of losing her child. And the full circle irony in Rumpelstiltskin’s deals is that he is unable to fix his own problem of finding his son, yet everyone goes to him to fix theirs. I definitely see this as a perfect life lesson of releasing your power to someone who uses that power for their own personal agendas.

My favorite character is easily Red. I can relate her desire to explore and break free from the life she perceives as her imprisonment. Through a twist of her being the wolf, she realizes her true nature and since she was considered the monster of her village, this symbolizes how her current thoughts and actions were destructive. She runs away from responsibility instead of conquering it. As her story progress, she gains control of how to use her power and this is also represented in her decision to stay and operate Granny’s dinner. Red’s character alone makes me ponder the very essential questions of: who am I, why am I here, what am I good at, and how does it benefit myself and my society? I definitely appreciate Red as a character especially her facial expressions. When she meets Emma and Belle for the first time it seems like she’s overjoyed like a happy puppy or enticed like a hungry wolf.

Well that raps up my thoughts, but there are some unanswered questions:

  • Is Henry a fairytale characters? Is he Regina’s father reincarnated making them relatives after all?
  • Where is Emma’s boyfriend, and what did he see to convince him to believe everything Pinocchio was saying? Did Emma not see this certain something because she was in denial initially?
  • Where and who is Rumpelstiltskin’s son?
  • Where is Pinocchio?

That’s it for now, folk. To the next episode and beyond.

 

Dear Blog,

I have not neglected you. I just took a short vacation and enjoyed the fruits of a community blog called My First Apartment. This is a site where you can gain very valuable advice on apartment and roommate hunting as well as great decorations ideas. Click here to view one of my articles.

Below is my sample article that won me the gig.

Getting to Know Your New Family:

Conversational Starters 101 Using Chinese Astrology

By Sabrina Pettis

After carrying heavy boxes to your new home and exchanging friendly introductions with your roomies, the four of you huddle around the television to enjoy an episode of Heroes! (Yes! You read that right.) That night’s episode was epic, and BOOM! You end with a cliffhanger, a cheesy commercial appears, and the awkward silence follows. Waiting, waiting. The four of you say this and that, but the awkwardness remains. Now is the perfect time to break out the Chinese Astrology book.

Astrological interpretations are always best for fascinating conversations. According to Chinese Astrology, I am a fabulous Rabbit and my roomies are the Dog, the Ox, and the Rat. Just to summarize, Rabbit people are very compassionate and idealistic. Dog people are very determined, Ox People are born leaders, and Rat People are strong problem solvers.  Each sign includes a compatibility scale from 1 (worst) to 10 (best), which determines who gets along and who needs to be separated.

Rabbits’ compatibility is 6 with Rats, 6 with Oxen, and 7 with Dogs. A roar of laughter erupted from all the things mentioned about our signs. Surprisingly, I shared a room with the Dog girl. We got along famously. The Rat and Ox girls became best friends. The Rat girl and I had serious tension. We even agreed; it was fate that we did NOT share a room. Maybe this is true, or maybe not. The point is, learning each person’s sign created a fun night of possibilities.

I can relate to you. I have been searching for a job for six months and received wonderful news only recently. I am so relieved to be back in game, but I must admit. My long search is not due to the economy scare that most people use as an excuse. It took a long time to land a job because somewhere after college, I lost my creativity.

What does this mean?

Well, Jeff Altman – who is a successful Senior Staffing Recruiter, perfectly illustrates why Americans have a hard time penetrating through the job market in his book “Get Yourself Hired Now: The Big Game Hunter’s Guide to Head Hunting Your Next Job and Every Job After That!” Altman states that when he first searched for a job after college, he found himself looking through newspapers and applying to all positions that matched his qualifications. After submitting his resume, he will cross his fingers and hope for a call back. He did this back in the 70s! Today there has been an explosion of new technology and new jobs yet we still shop for jobs as if we are in the 70s. Are you seeing a connection?

I did participate in plenty of cattle-call interviews because I passively apply for jobs on Craigslist. Craigslist is a waste of time because most of the employers featured are greedy, but I continue applying to these ads because it seems like the fastest method. There was one interview at a chiropractor’s office in La Jolla, CA that held a HUGE group interview! I was grouped with a bunch of job seekers from all walks of life. The interview turned out to be a sales pitch because the doctor talked about himself the whole time. This was definitely depressing, but this is what “the fastest method” gets me. Therefore, Craigslist should not be your primary source for job hunting. However if you decide to stick with Craigslist, do your research on the company first. Oh and if and you see “Doctor’s Sidekick” or “Doctor’s Assistant” in the La Jolla area, and the ad states “no experience necessary,” do not waste your time. You are worth more than that.

The truth about Craigslist is that it attracts dishonorable companies. Advertising on Craigslist is free and most jobs posted receive at least 200 applicants. The hiring managers of these jobs usually contact most of the applicants because there is so much variety – they are DEFINITELY greedy. Not only greedy, there are shady companies on Craigslist as well. There are horror stories where people have been murdered or sex trafficked from a Craigslist ad. I am dead serious, folks! This is the reality. You must do your research. Check the company on Yelp, Better Business Bureau, Glassdoor, Rip Off Report, and review their Private Policy.

So what to do now?

There are many ways to promote yourself professionally while searching for a job that really goes along with your passion. This is the key to your job search, and the fact is, most people have lost touch with what they want in life.

Being in my first (and definitely my last) group interview, I realize that the job hunters of today are very lost. They have been applying for jobs the wrong way for so long and decided to take anything that comes their way as a result. This is a huge problem. If you don’t know what you want, then someone else will decide for you. There is no way you can be truly happy if someone else is deciding your life’s path.

At my last position, I knew I was not supposed to be there. I respect the company 100 percent, but I did not have a genuine interest in it. I just did my duties and collected my pay check. The money is what got me up every morning. With that said, there is nothing with starting your career path with a respectable job that is not in-line with your interest because you do learn about what it takes to be a part of a team and maintain business success. However, it is best to build a bridge. Use the position as a stepping stone that will lead you to what you really want. If you settle with the money, eventually you will suffer consequences.

Did you know feelings, work, and health are all related? If you are unhappy, eventually it is going cause some type of stress. I learned from the Director of San Diego Clinical Hypnotherapy that most health problems in America are stress related. So it is time to ask yourself, is money more important than your well being? Some people are proud to say yes, but I am sure that is the ego talking. Your well being dictates your money situation. If you are in good health, most likely you are in a good working predicament. If you are in a good working predicament, then you automatically make good money. The opposite goes to those who are in poor health.

Now let’s back track. How do you figure out what job is perfect for you?
Here’s the fun part everyone! Pull out a piece of paper and a group of different colored pens. Think about all the things you enjoy doing? Write them out randomly. Now remember those childhood dreams? Write those down in LARGE print because the child you is the idealist who believes anything is possible. You need the child you in order to enter the perfect career. Lastly, think about your personality and how it relates to the job environment. This is crucial as well.

In the insightful lecture “Piercing the Fog,” Doctor Yaffa Bey provides a short segment where she offers advice to young adults about their working situations. She mentions, if you are not a social person, why would you waste time applying for a customer focused jobs? Or if you enjoy meeting new people, why would you waste your time behind a secluded desk sorting paperwork? It’s common sense, right? But you would be so surprised how people ignore their own needs just for a dollar.

So what do you have on your list? You should have the whole page filled. If not, it’s time to experiment. Go out and try different things through volunteering and classes and meet up groups. There are so many opportunities in your area. You just need to open your eyes. Once you have that page filled, you will have a better time looking for the perfect job.

Through Altman’s book, I found Ezine Articles were everyday people like you and me can write out our thoughts freely. Actually I wrote this article for Ezine, but it was declined (probably because I revealed the curtains on Craigslist). Anyway, I did find another job recruiter’s blog on Ezine, http://www.jobseekeremploymentadvice.com. The author provides refreshing advice on how to find a job. The article that sticks with me is, “60% of Job Are NOT Advertised.”

This article gives job hunters a fresh perspective. Finding the right employee is a gruesome process for employers. This is why employers seek internal applicants first before going out to the public. Therefore, if you go to the employer before the job is advertised on general search sites like Monster and Indeed, you give yourself a creative edge. Go back to your list. Now do a Google search of all the businesses in your area that relates to your interest and start applying. Remember, applying for work is your current full time job, so treat it that way.

If you still need assistance, please visit my list of alternative job hunting methods, https://sapeni.wordpress.com/job-search-methods. There are TONS of jobs out there. You just have to take a moment and really look.

I relate to this article on so many levels.

Girl Fest San Diego

By Lauren “Lo” Valle

I get amped about social justice issues. I mean, really amped. I’ve tried to pinpoint a moment in time when this happened, but I think I was just born this way.

I remember being seven years old, on the playground with some classmates in line to play handball. When it was my turn, I was supposed to play against a boy named Kenny.

“I don’t wanna play with you. Girls suck. Boys are better at everything,” he said.

At first, I raised my fist at him. Then I remembered how often my older brother was in detention for getting into fights at school, and that I was known by the teachers as “the good one.” So I put my fist down and replied, “Okay. Since this is going to be so easy for you, why don’t you just play me and get it over with?”

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Blink! My eyes are finally opening up has I re-develop a loving relationship with San Diego. I am learning about the many treasures this cozy city has to offer including the women’s empowerment foundation called Girl fest San Diego. It’s a non-profit group that spreads awareness through social events and creativity.

Check them out – http://www.girlfestsandiego.org, and befriend them on Facebook.

Learn! Educate! Get Involved!